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Posts Tagged ‘criticism’
Monday, July 12th, 2010
I really did not know what to title this blog, but I think “Observations” will cover it very well. Over the years there have been many observations I have made regarding metaphysical issues. One of them is that those who are metaphysical (and especially people like me) who have an issue health-wise should not have them. Most people seem to think that, because we work in the area we do, we should not have health problems! For instance, I have a knee problem. Over the years I have had so many injuries to my left knee. The left knee in metaphysics is attributed to the following: issues with mother, sister or significant female in your life, holding onto sadness, hurt and loss from the past; feeling like a victim; constant self- and other-criticism, and holding yourself back (Inna Segal’s book “The Secret Language Of Your Body”). It is also connected to the control issue, mainly of wanting control of one’s self.
Over the years I have had most of the issues mentioned in the book, but more than anything, the issue of holding myself back. My staff will tell you of the times I held myself back. I had so much fear of going into the public arena. I had been in the public in the past – as a magazine columnist for instance – but I was behind the scenes in a way, hiding behind a magazine column. I really did not have to be “in the public” where people could touch me. Being a radio clairvoyant was also behind the microphone, and it is ironic that my knee only became a problem after I came to the USA and we started to work toward doing a TV show and being “really public.” I began sabotaging myself, not wanting to be photographed and attending photo sessions without make-up etc. It was shortly after this that my knee became a problem.
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Tags: Alan McElroy, criticism, health, hurt, issues, knee, loss, Maitreya, Margaret McElroy, metaphysical, public, sabotage, sadness, victim; self- criticism
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Wednesday, May 19th, 2010
The pain was in leaving Australia, a country which had embraced me when I migrated in 1974 from England. Now it was 30 years later. I had come to love living on the Gold Coast mountain where I had made my home and built a business. By now I was more detached than I had ever been. In my third year in New Zealand, I suddenly realized that I had let it go and no longer wanted to go “home.” The most important thing I found was the fact that, even though one lets go and detaches from the emotions, one may not forget the person and their actions (whether good or not), but one can look at them without judgment or criticism. It took me a long time – many years – to do that and I am so thankful now for that detachment in my life. It helps me so much just to walk away or give it no energy.
Recently, I was placed in a situation where my detachment was tested and I was able to completely let go – not react, not go back into the way I had been previously. I was so shocked because my old Self would have roared like a lion and given an Oscar winning performance. Instead, my Higher Self yawned and said, “What a waste of energy!”
We cannot move forward if we have an emotional body, but it is also true that, even with removing it, we still need to have compassion, love, and understanding. We need to find a balance. Everything in life is on loan for this lifetime; learn to let go of it. For Cancer, Taurus, and Scorpio people (or people who have two or more planets in those signs), it can be very hard but it can be done. If you find yourself like I was – with Aquarian after Aquarian coming into your life – they are there to help you detach, to see detachment, but not to be like Aquarians who are often critical, judgmental, and who have to learn to find balance in being compassionate, understanding, and loving. It can be done. I have done it, but it has taken a long time. Don’t despair if it takes time though, it will be worth it in the end.
Tags: Alan McElroy, Aquarian, balance, cancer, compassionate, critical, criticism, detachment, emotional body, energy, Higher Self, judgment, judgmental, loving, Maitreya, Margaret McElroy, pain, scorpio, Self, Taurus, understanding
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Friday, January 29th, 2010
The interesting thing is the fact that there was a time I could not bear to be alone! I had to be surrounded by people and things. I had to be busy all day long; I could not sit still and be quiet like I do now. The chatter from my Self was constant. I actually have spaces now in my brain. Nobody talks internally to me anymore and it is so quiet inside of me! It is as if I am in my own little bubble, and the only time I find myself having problems – especially with criticism and judgment – is when I am with other people. As an empath, I take on everyone’s emotions and feelings, including their judgment and critical views. I love the quiet, and strive to have it more and more.
I am lucky in that I have a beautiful home that Maitreya found for me with a creek within viewing distance of the kitchen window. Birds come to feed at the feeders all day, my family (my cat) sits with me all day absorbing the energy of my Master, and he loves it. The area I live in is so quiet despite there being a main road just across the street. With the silence of the house and the silence in my own head, I am indeed in absolute bliss. It is getting to the point where I no longer wish to speak to anyone. I shop on-line so that I do not have to visit shops and usually go to the supermarket at 9 pm in the evening on the way home from the radio show because it is quiet then and there are hardly any people in the store. I would never in a million years have thought I would be like this, but I am and I love it. I am not tempted by other people’s feelings, ideas or thoughts then.
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Tags: Alan McElroy, birds, bliss, criticism, emotions, empath, feelings, judgment, Maitreya, Margaret McElroy, quite, Self, silence
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Tuesday, January 26th, 2010
If the channel is a good one, they will attempt to help you change the energy, but not with criticism, judgment, or trying to control you. Free will should be there at all times. They should not manipulate you and be compassionate to your circumstances. When Maitreya tells me to help a soul I do so, even though it means I will not get one cent for giving that energy. I do it because he knows they need help desperately. I would probably be an extremely wealthy woman today if I had been paid for all the services I have given for free.
Maitreya always tells me those people; I do not choose them myself. The interesting thing is that when I do that – give a service for no charge – something usually happens to repay me anyway. It is strange when once I let go of the monetary issue, the Universe rewards. Of course, that is then when you meet or find your Master. Your Self comes in, gives excuses not to attend class, quotes past experiences – it will do anything it can to stop you.
Even physically try to stop you, like with me when I was going for a session of healing in Brisbane, Australia, with a healer who channeled a Master. My Self wanted nothing to do with my being healed. It was happy with me being as miserable as I was. The healer/Master told me my Self would do all it could to stop me, and it did. It created a huge panic attack just before we got into Brisbane Central Station, and it was so severe that I was paralyzed in the legs on the platform at the bottom of the stairs leading up to the street. I cannot remember now who helped me up those stairs, but someone did.
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Tags: Alan McElroy, Australia, Brisbane, channel, compassion, criticism, energy, judgment, Maitreya, manipulate, Margaret McElroy, master, reward, Self, service, soul, Universe
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Saturday, November 28th, 2009
How do we not take offense? We simply do not give energy to anything we are given, whether in criticism or in so-called advice and guidance. The purpose of our earthly life is to become detached from the emotional body or the emotional issues we have around us, to give no energy to anything. Once we do that and we realize that the issues are often another person’s issues, not ours, we stop blaming ourselves. As we give no energy to anything, we also thank the person for bringing to our attention what it was we needed to see and make a mental note to change whatever is needed if we feel we need to do that. Sometimes that comment made can be done in jealousy, past-life feelings, anger, or other so-called negative feelings. However, sometimes the comment or comments can ring true.
Sometimes we can know ourselves and then someone will reiterate it for us. It is still hard to take because it then makes us feel guilty or terrible for not taking it on board ourselves. Whatever you are told by anyone, listen! Listen to the words and then go within to the Higher Self. Listen to the words without the Self feeling sorry for itself and protecting itself. Ask yourself, “Do I need to do something about this?” The truth is that, if you do not and it is something you need to pay attention to, the Universe will find someone to give you the information again. It will not go away.
When you read these words, Thanksgiving will be over for 2009. However, after Thanksgiving ask yourself, “Have I given enough thanks for all I have? Thanks for those who have hurt or harmed me with their words?” Are you able to forgive? I have lost many friends over the years because of my inability to forgive, sometimes over stupid things which have been said. What a waste of energy. Just think what I could have done with the energy I wasted!
Tags: advice, blaming, change, criticism, emotional body, energy, feelings, forgive, guidance, Higher Self, issues, life, listen, Maitreya, negative feelings, offense, past life, Self, thanks, truth
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Wednesday, November 25th, 2009
A true friend will not be afraid of speaking their truth because often it can be channeled. But what do we do? We take offence or get upset and, before we know where we are, we have broken the friendship and moved on. It is quite in order to tell a person you disagree with them, but so many of us do not do that. We take offence, as I stated, and usually finish the friendship. We, on the other hand, have to learn to take criticism and usually we are not good at doing that.
I know at times I have to say “Sorry” to Alan, and boy is it hard to do. For me though, I have Maitreya behind me telling me to do so. I cannot ignore it nor can I run away. I have learned now to listen to the words he says – despite my Self not liking them – and not getting upset when he does say something which my Self does not agree with.
Years ago when my children were small, I used to always apologize to my children if I said or did something wrong. I found it easy to do with children, but another adult was difficult to say it to. Why do we find it hard to accept criticism? Usually it is the Self part of us. It does not like upset at all, it does not like change, it is proud, and it is determined to stay the way it is. It is a truly spiritual person who can accept criticism and who can apologize and be humble in doing so. It is hard accepting criticism, but usually it is the only way we can find out what we are doing wrong or what we are doing that is upsetting others, then accepting the criticism and putting it into being. It is a hard road to travel sometimes.
Tags: apologize, channeled, criticism, Higher Self, Maitreya, offence, Self, sorry, spiritual, truth
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Monday, May 18th, 2009
The purpose of our incarnation is to deal with our own issues, life lessons, and karma. However, we spend most of our lives interfering in other people’s lives – dictating to them how they should do things and live their lives – and very little time on our own stuff. The Self loves running away from its own stuff. We also incarnated to gain control over the emotional body. Oh, the emotional body – the Oscar star, the player on the stage, the drama maker, or the recluse or frightened individual scared of its own emotion! Once one removes the emotional body, one can finally see what life is all about.
There are some people who have no emotions; they find it hard to cry, to release their emotion. These are not people who have removed the emotional body; they are ones who have not learned about it yet. They are actually behind the ones who have experienced it and have demonstrated it. As an Oscar winner of huge proportion in the past, I can honestly say that I actually prefer my life now (without the emotional body) to the person I used to be. However, when I am tired or out of sorts, I have been known to allow my emotional body to have control again, but thankfully only until I can get back to normal again.
From this moment on, be aware of what you are saying about another. Is it true, kind, or helpful? Start watching what you say to people and how you talk with others about people. Try not to get caught up in others’ reactions and judgment or criticism. Ask yourself whether they mirror something for you that your Self does not want to see! As you try to do this, watch how the Self will try and pull you back into situations. More than anything, do not justify yourself. All you need to know, as Maitreya writes in his teachings, is that you can stand in front of God today and know that you are not guilty. If you can do that, then you are truly raising your vibration. Have understanding and compassion for every soul. When you can do this, you are truly one with God!
Tags: criticism, God, judgement, karma, life lessons, Maitreya, Margaret McElroy, raising your vibration, Self, soul, the emotional body, The purpose of our incarnation, the Self
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